When Life Sucks
Throwing a spanner in the works of the downward spiral
You sleep through the alarm
There is no coffee
The last teabag looks forlorn in a dirty sink
The milk carton in the fridge is empty
Or worse still the fridge is empty
You miss your bus
Yes you miss....those early morning dashes for the bus
Or the car breaks down
Your boss is unreasonable
The internet is unstable
The dog has chewed up the phone charger
The cat has got sick down the back of the sofa
On your mobile phone
There is no one to share the load
To put on the laundry and hang it on the line
The loneliness of working from home
The chaos and demands of the kids
The litany of COVID regulations
Coronavirus headlines over and over
Living with masks
Surviving on a low hug diet
The craziness of working from home
The lack of privacy for home working
The isolation of doing business on Zoom
On days like this all I want to do is go back to bed. Wishing, hoping that tomorrow is different. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it isn't and sometimes life really sucks when the Groundhog Day roller coaster gets traction for days or weeks at a time.
One bad day can lead to a plethora of angry, frustrated, despairing feelings, bucket loads of unhelpful thoughts, ideas and judgements of myself others and this terrible world I am living in.
How to throw a spanner in the works of THAT downward spiral?
One of the most freeing premises I have taken on is that my thoughts and feelings are not a true reflection of reality. They are in fact a reflection of my past experience, my beliefs about myself and my perception.
My thoughts and feelings are in effect not real.
THIS has given me the capacity to intercept the fall.
It allows me detach from what I am thinking and feeling about what is happening.
What is happening doesn't mean anything about me. It doesn't mean I am a bad person, a failure, destined to live a life of penury, overwhelm, chaos.
By detaching the meaning I can see what is going on for what is. It means I am having a bad day. Maybe more than one.
I can see I am tired, overwhelmed, doing too much, not asking for help, putting up with bad behaviour from my boss, my kids, the dog, I am prioritising the wind down glass of wine over an early night, I am still working at midnight instead of cuddling up with my partner or the cat.
Awareness allows me to reclaim agency. I can decide to stop, breathe, cancel the meeting, order a take away, fill the bath and have a long soak and read a rubbish novel.
I am the decision maker of what happens to me. And once I engage my agency the spaciousness opens for the joy to come back in.
#perception #awarenessmatters # #workingfromhome #bethechange