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There is so much wisdom out there but it gets lost in the volume of information, newsletters, social media posts etc.
I want to cut to the chase and share the gold I received from Sahil Bloom’s recent post where he talks about his relationship with his father and the two pillars of their strong relationship.
1. High Expectations: The belief that the other person is capable of excellence, that their potential is only limited by their own views. The willingness to share the truth on those high expectations and the gap vs. the current level of delivery.
2. High Support: The ability and willingness to provide the love, support, and engagement to help the person meet those high expectations.
There is a balance here. High expectations without high support is soul destroying, high support without high expectations smother's growth.
We are not all as lucky as Sahil and that is sobering. Our parental relationships lay down a formative foundation in our consciousness that will determine our resilience and ability to lean into growth and tension. If these pillars are not balanced that foundation will be, guaranteed, limiting you ability to thrive.
So what to do. We can't re-form our childhood and take it from me, it is a waste of energy to try to. The trick is to move forwards from here, to consciously put in place new structures that balance these elements.
This is why I have a coach. And why I am a coach, to provide for others what I didn't experience growing up.
I stand for my clients greatness. As an 'imagination technologist' I have the ability to see way beyond what they think they are capable of; allied with that I am a fan, champion and cheerleader for my clients.
To stretch my clients to go beyond their own idea of themselves or their businesses and to support them on that climb takes energy is a key reason why I work with a small number of clients at any one time.
It is also why I only work with clients who are ready for the stretch and whose potential resonates with my passions and interests.
A good football coach is no use to you if your passion is tennis or swimming but any good coach will help you see if you are good fit for them or not.
To be the best you can be:
1. Be honest about your formative relationships and recognise how they may be limiting you.
2. As an adult look for structures that stretch you sufficiently and that support and champion you. NOTE: the perfect structure may not feel 'comfortable' but you won't feel so stretched that you are going to snap or so relaxed that you could fall asleep.
3. If you are going to invest your time and your money find a coach who can dream big with you and for you and who has a track record of supporting and championing their clients.
To read Sahils article:
https://lnkd.in/dy2Whd5W
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